Loneliness
To feel loneliness one needs to understand and embrace the concept of self. What’s in it for me? How will this affect me? How will I feel by myself? Will I feel better with others around? Why do I feel so lonely when I’m by myself? To fully understand the concept of self one needs to enhance mental clarity.
You see, without a self image or self-conscious awareness there would be no loneliness. We create a myriad of characteristics and traits to project our self image outwards for all to see. We create a self that we believe will be perceived by others in a positive way and that will allow us to be accepted by others. We want to fit in socially and be accepted.
Through it all we lose sight of our true selves. Our true essence of being, who we really are, is lost and covered up by layers of abstract and conceptual thoughts. We become so used to projecting, protecting and promoting our false self that we lose any sense of who we really are.
The thought of being without the other frightens us. We have great difficulty being alone because we aren’t quite sure who we are. There’s an overall sense of inauthenticity. We project ourselves in a certain way to allow our self image to perpetuate and be socially accepted. But we have lost a sense of who we are and we are frightened by that.
We become attached to our false self, to the memories and experiences that we have created over a very long period of time. All of these memories and experiences are absorbed into our consciousness. They in fact become our consciousness. That which we know, the knowledge of our past becomes our conscious self.
What are we to do? Now being alone is frightening. We are left alone with only this false self we have created. There is a sense that we are not genuine, an overall sense that something is missing from our lives. We are alone and feel alienated and cut-off, we have a sense that we are in some way not whole. So being alone with our false self is frightening.
We look to others for a sense of well-being and security because we cannot find these things within ourselves. We are in fact quite empty and void of any true perception and experience. Our entire existence is a lie, an act, created in an effort to project an acceptable self to be approved by others. Every action we take, every feeling and emotion we have is generated by this false self image we have created.
We are so used to this false self that it has become our reality. We don’t even recognize it as being false. We accept the falseness as being real. We live in a state of delusion and falsehood. The only way to become aware of all of this is to enhance mental clarity and focus.
The distinctions are very subtle. Only our sense of inauthenticity and lack of genuine action and emotions reveal to us that something is not right. Yet we are unable to put our finger on the problem. We can’t recognize as a problem that which has become so real to us. Mental clarity is void and must be enhanced to reveal the problem to us.
When we encounter a person that we perceive as being interesting we feel threatened and become uneasy. We hide these feelings and pretend that they don’t exist. When we encounter someone we perceive as being a phony, we come to dislike them and push them away. We rationalize that because of their phoniness they aren’t worth our time, attention or effort. These people have struck a cord with us and have generated incongruent emotions that are in reality the result of our own uneasiness with our own false self.
If we can’t even be at ease, genuine and authentic in dealing with others in social situations, how can we hope to be at ease and comfortable with ourselves when we are alone?
To eliminate fear and loneliness from our lives it is necessary to become unattached to the concept of self and to live in the world with true enhanced mental clarity and to perceive the truth in everything we do. In this way the need for self will melt away. As this false self falls away, experiences become more real and meaningful and you can begin to create lasting memories from your true self. You will never be lonely again.
Meditation is a time-proven way to improve mental functioning, develop mental clarity, increase confidence, achieve natural stress relief, develop intuition, improve memory, concentration and focus and to understand the conceptual self. Make it one of your daily activities and highest priorities. I assure you that once you do, you will never stop. This program will dramatically enhance your life for the better.
To Enhanced Mental Clarity, Abundance, and Excellent Health,
Namaste
Tony D’Agostino
Founder and CEO of YogaAwakening
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